At nearly four-years-old Landon is still such a sweet boy. But he certainly has his moments.
When we moved to our new house last year we saw a change in him. The sudden attitude came out of nowhere. He would talk back and keep doing the wrong thing even when we asked him to stop. And the tantrums began. For many people it’s coined the “terrible twos.” Not for us. Two was a breeze compared to three-years-old.
Maybe the transition to a new house and a new daycare was just too much him. Naaman and I thought he would settle in and the tantrums would calm down. But no, they only seem to get more frequent during his time as a three-year-old.
I’m not worried about his behavior. In fact, I’m guessing this is completely normal and a lot of people deal with this change. I’m just one of those dumb parents in la-la-land who thought the tantrums would skip over us. Landon was so easy breezy until right before he turned three. So imagine my surprise the first time he falls on the floor and cries for fifteen minutes over the fact that I gave Brigham the blue sippy cup and not him. I hadn’t dealt with much of that yet so I didn’t (don’t) know how to handle it.
For the most part he is still a sweetheart of a little boy. Hugs and kisses and “I love you’s” are plentiful. They tell me he is the star student at preschool and they never have issues with his behavior. But when he’s with us, every once in awhile, we have an unexpected meltdown. Most recently, in the waiting area of Bob Evans because I wouldn’t buy him candy. Cue end-of-the-world tantrum.
You must not misunderstand me. I love this little dude more than my life. He is usually the sweetest boy. I would do anything to keep him happy. But when he is in the middle of a tantrum it seems like nothing will calm him down. It’s like we have to let him ride it out. It’s maybe ten minutes and then he is his little happy self again.
I feel bad for Brigham. As he often seems to be the source of Landon’s breakdowns. I wish I could say that they are best buds. Brigham wants so much to be just like his big brother. But Landon sometimes seems uninterested in him. Brigham playing with one of his toys or Brigham getting the attention from us can cause a major tantrum. It feels like we stop whatever we’re doing with Brigham in order to deal with Landon. I’m sure Brigham will be just fine. But it still makes me feel bad for him.
Landon can be very emotional. Just like his mama. I understand that three-year-olds don’t yet have the mental capacity to control their emotions all the time. I’m questioning myself though. Am I doing everything I can? Are these tantrums my fault somehow?
And I’d like to know . . . does this get better? Will the tantrums and attitude subside any time soon? Is four-years-old worse or better? Are you laughing at me as I’m as I’m writing this?
I love my Landon so much. This is just a mama venting to other mamas. I know it’s not possible for him to be happy all the time. Just look at this dude. No matter where his range of emotions are he has my heart always.